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Improve nutrition.  Use Ensure or Boost if necessary to get nutrition

This is a great one! I use Ensure to take my meds in the morning because my pain med and sometimes my Zyrtec always seem to get stuck and Ensure is thicker than water for pushing it down. I can also drink it easily since I have nausea most mornings but can't take my meds easily on an empty stomach without feeling sicker. My favorite flavors are Dark Chocolate, Coffee Latte, and Vanilla. I tend to keep them in my refrigerator and use them for easy breakfasts that I can conveniently drink my meds down with also.  :biggrin:
You need to pursue treatment, but that treatment does not have to include medication.  Whether you use medication and if so which medication is a negotiation between you and your mental healthcare provider.  I personally encourage you to consider giving medication another try understanding it may take several trials to reach the right medication for you.  At the same time I know medication doesn't work for everyone for various reasons.  But again, this is a private discussion for you to have with your doctor or therapist whom you trust to guide you in making such decisions.  Would not being on medication mean you wouldn't qualify as disabled?  NO.  Legally you need to show sincere attempts to recieve treatment that an average person would recognize as treatment for mental illness, so medication and/or talk therapy as opposed to homeopathy alone or, well something a recognized mental health care provider would consider treatment, but you can choose which provider and which treatment.  I hope I didn't tangle that too much.

Yes, I think you've got the concept that a service dog is generally contraindicated for treatment and is more a tool for managing what is left after treatment has stopped being effective.

I understand personally what this feels like, the hopelessness.  There will be periods during treatment and recovery where symptoms get worse and it feels like it's not working or helping.  That is part of depression.  So to keep a clear view of where you are in treatment, talk to your mental healthcare provider, preferably a therapist rather than an MD.  They need to know what is happening to you right now.  They need to know you are struggling.  And you together need to have a discussion of what the plan is for dealing with this, what options are left that haven't been tried, what is most likely to help that you feel up to executing.  You need to focus on a plan forward.

Some other tips:
Improve nutrition.  Use Ensure or Boost if necessary to get nutrition
Increase sunlight exposure.  Pet dogs are GREAT for this.  They love going outside to play or walk.  If you cannot do it for youself, do it for your dogs.
Decrease isolation.  Get out of the house and around other human beings.  I'm sitting at the library right now so that I'm out of my house.  I've joined groups that share my hobbies like knitting and sewing.  Taking your dogs to an obedience class will accomplish several of these goals.  It's frankly easier to make new friends at dog school than about anywhere else.  You have a common interest (dogs).  You don't have to make eye contact because everyone is watching their dogs.  You have an easy topic of conversation ("what a sweet dog!" Or "what a cute dog!" Or "what breed is your dog?"). Getting into a class for dog training gets you out of the house, among other humans you can safely interact with, it gets you out and active with your dog, it teaches you new skills that will improve your quality of life and your dogs', it is a concrete plan that can be executed and you can succeed because the only people you need to please are yourself and your dog.

Sliding back in since Ive read through most of what was posted-also apparently my phoneMs spellcheck isn't working on chrome right now sorry about that!

What I've kind of gotten from this is that even though I've been in treatment for a while, it would be best for me to keep working on things to try and see if I could better them, even though they've stagnated and honestly there are a few abilities that have decreased and now increased in difficulty..? Maybe it's just my current treatment but it's just so hard to do anything without forcing yourself and feeling absolutely horrible after ):

Additionally, I'm guessing not wanting to get back on meds hurts the qualification of every possible treatment, huh? I've been several times more  suicidal / paranoid on meds than off with three of them so far, and it would help to know if any of you might have had this same problem? I'dk if this is the right board for that.

Also in saying that I'm not meaning an SD is a treatment, but a tool to help you function after treatments have been exhausted and stagnant (I think?)
I left out that she will have to hold a down stay in the small space at the foot of your seat for the duration of the flight.  She is not allowed to occupy any part of the aisle.  She must not visit other passengers who may be allergic or dislike dogs.  No moving out of your foot space, no wandering into the aisle, no jumping up on people or licking them.  No howling either.  It needs to seem to the other passengers like there is no dog on board.  I mean, potentially it might be trained in as little as 8 weeks with hard work on your part, but of course you need to know what specifically needs to be trained.  So I've listed out roughly what is expected of her during the flight.
Sounds like you've got about 2 months to prepare, so I'd suggest enrolling in a basic obedience class and explain to the instructor what your goal is.

However you may need to find a flight that permits pets.  Your reason for not leaving her at home is that she would be unhappy and alone and that isn't one that qualifies for flying as an ESA.

Do be aware that if she does act up in the airport at the gate they can bar her from boarding, even if you have the proper paperwork.  If she acts up in air they can land the plane and kick you both off or ban her from the return flight.  So you do need to get the training well in hand before the flight.

This is the point where people often start to consider tranquilizing their dog so I'll anticipate and warn you that the AVMA advises against trainquilizing animals for flying as they react differently at high altitudes than they would normally and that there can be breathing problems.
I have such bad anxiety in general. Mixed with some depression. Aka. My ESA.
However, I'm now 20 weeks pregnant, and planning to go home in June for a few weeks for a baby shower. I'll be 30 weeks at the time of flight. (Its one way. Driving back.) It's from San Diego (military move) to Tennessee. I am dreading it. My ESA is a almost 10 month old Siberian Husky who was the runt of her liter and is only 25 lbs! She's very small! But she's extremely healthy (Vets words). My fear is her excitement. How can I train her to focus on me and not her surroundings? We have been training her with laying down, and next I believe is "under". She's a fast learner. She loves sleeping curled up already (idk how to insert a picture or I would!) I think once she's on plane, and able to calm down, she will be fine but I am so anxious. Any suggestions or advice? I already suspect I'll have rude comments from other flyers. I'll have to bite my tongue. But that doesn't help with my anxiety of everything bad happening. My girl is a super sweet one, another fear, is she loves to try to get kisses. We are in the process of training her not to jump on me, or anyone else, that's a process though. She's just so loving and exciteable. I appreciate any and all advice. Leaving her home with husband isn't an option, as stated above we are only in San Diego due to a military move therefore he's gone so much, she would be unhappy and a lone more often than I am comfortable with for her. (She's my baby!)

Thank you in advance with any insight and help. I'd love to hear personal experiences and what training methods worked best for you.

It is slightly possible that you would still have to pay pet rent.  In theory, you should not, but I don't know off hand of case law that makes this clear and HUD has in the past issued contradictory guidance on this issue.  It is also possible that the landlord will choose to refuse to make the exception in which case you would need to decide whether you wanted to pursue it legally or not.  It's not as easy of a choice as you might first suppose.  It will create conflict with the landlord that will flavor your future relationship and so some might choose to pursue it and some might decide that peace with the landlord was more important and pay it anyway, even if they thought they could probably win in court.  It's a very individual decision with no clear cut right or wrong answer.

Some landlords dislike ESAs.  Since yours permits pets already, I think they are less likely to dislike them.  Am I remembering correctly that you are considering a cat?  I think there are fewer objections to cats than to dogs generally.  In your letter requesting the accommodation, you can make a point of communicating to your landlord how seriously you take the responsibility of pet ownership and how diligent you will be to keep the cat and litter box clean and to prevent any damage to the apartment and to accept responsibility for paying for any repairs needed because of damage.  You might include references from landlords who have known you with a pet who could testify that you kept the apartment clean and in good repair.  Or a letter from your vet that you are responsible.  Or if your therapist knows you that well they could include information about your responsibility in their letter to the landlord.
Is a Service Dog for You? (publicly viewable board) / Re: Looking into a PSD?
« Last post by Cinnamon on March 27, 2017, 06:14:32 PM »
Sorry, Kirsten, I edited the quoted content in my post to clarify but it may not have shown up right away?

You're right that I don't know you, and that's why I was asking for clarification. I certainly didn't intend to offend or make you feel attacked; the first part of your post seemed to acknowledge the reality of mental illness and the fact that a cure (full remission or recovery) is not always possible, but then the second confused me a lot. I try to always give people the benefit of the doubt because it's sometimes hard to express yourself clearly online, and things are easy to misunderstand.

EverConfused, your post makes sense and I think I understand now. :smile: It is good to communicate with others with the intent of helping them, of course! ^_^
Is a Service Dog for You? (publicly viewable board) / Re: Looking into a PSD?
« Last post by EverConfused on March 27, 2017, 05:53:57 PM »
I read Kirsten's post pretty differently, Cinnamon.

She clearly acknowledges that there are situations where mental illness isn't curable. And if you look at the post she was replying to, she was clarifying that service dogs aren't a form of treatment.

She was also pointing out that getting a service dog before one has given recovery a fair chance is likely to actually reduce the extent of recovery. That is, if you get a service dog (or personal attendant) too soon, you can end up missing out on some of the treatment gains that may have been possible for you.

I don't see what the problem is with letting someone know that their plan may make their treatment less successful rather than facilitating it, as they hope. Surely that's okay?

If you feel you've maxed out the gains you're going to get from treatment then Kirsten's post doesn't really apply to you. If the shoe doesn't fit, don't wear it.  :wink:
Is a Service Dog for You? (publicly viewable board) / Re: Looking into a PSD?
« Last post by ccunnin3 on March 27, 2017, 05:07:13 PM »
Cinnamon, full recovery from a mental illness may be impossible (that's when a service dog can come into play). But *some* recovery is always possible (and typically necessary) before getting a service dog.
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